For Those w/ LD Wives

[RedHeadWife]

Some of you know my sitch. I was LD, no desire for S, H dropped D bomb, I "figured things out" & got our M back on track, etc.

Anyway, I have figured out what part of my LD problem was and where it was coming from and just decided to share b/c it could be what is going on in other sitch's around here.

I think a big part of my problem was that S had become kind of "boring" and I was never having an O -- it had become more about H having an O and getting it over with. Therefore, I got to the point where I had no desire to put any effort into even trying to have S b/c it was just one more thing I felt I had to do and since it wasn't even satisfying for me, I just decided subconsciously I could & would just do w/o.

Don't beat me up saying that I could have changed that, etc., etc., b/c that didn't happen, but I have since worked all that out.

However, all I'm saying is that maybe a lot of the LD wives just have gotten to the point where S wasn't as satisfying for them, it "took too much work" and they were just too tired, etc. to put in the effort.

Unfortunately, I have no quick fix for this. I guess my only suggestion would be, if you can even get your W to have S, to make it all about her for awhile so that she starts enjoying it more and it could become something that she is willing to start putting more effort into.

I don't know. I could be way off here. It was just what I finally figured out was part of my problem and thought it may give some insight into the whole LD issue.