I couldn't sleep last night. The 'texting' was not sitting well with me because no matter how I rationalized it, she was flirting with a married man who 'loved his wife'.
she got up at 5:30 and I was awake. She took her phone into the bathroom downstairs. When she came out I asked her why she was taking her phone with her to the bathroom? She said it's her music player, etc, etc, and I said "You know I really am having a hard time believing that, you're checking to see if he sent you any messages". She says "I didn't send any messages, you can check" so I took her phone and she said "No, on second thought it's none of our business" and tried to take the phone away.
I looked and there was a reply to the one from last night that was just echoing the same text, which she told me last night was part of her license plate number and was supposed to be some kind of 'joke' between them.
But there was a previous message that said something like "I'm thinking if you" and I showed her that and said "This is not something innocent, this is the start or an affair". She said "no it isn't, nothing is going on".
Please, I've been on the boards long enough to see through this crap.
I told her "You know, this is the time when we should be working together to solve our financial and relationship problems but instead you go away on two different trips and hit on two different guys, and this one is married and has a family"
She is angry and says "I tried to make our relationship work, and I've seen that there are other people out there who are in happy relationships. It's out there and you should be happy that both of us will grow from this and be happy on our own. I'm ready to let you go and you should let me go too". Very serious and calm.
I said "WE didn't make our relationship work because either I'm rescuing you or I need you to help me break out of my pain. Here we are, both of us in a place where we can actually work together and you give up and chase married men. Don't F*ck up someone else's family too"
She just stood there glaring at me and told me that there is nothing left between us and we're moving on.
I just said "I'm done with this" and walked away.
She's gone for a walk now. I'm hurt, angry, pissed. It's hard not to blame myself for her leaving because of our history. But she is somewhat 'indifferent' now, so I guess the love is gone.
