Maybe your counselor can help with that. I had a terrible time biting my tongue when my ex-wife would provoke me.
It's important to remember that you can't wish changes in him into being. So you have to adopt the strategies that will work with him, as best you can, without being untrue to your core beliefs. So if robbing a bank and buying him a new car is what it takes, you don't have to go there.
At the same time, you need to protect yourself from any craziness on his part. The parenting plan is a good idea. How to get his cooperation seems to be the stumbling block right now. What has worked to get him on board with decisions in the past, or at least to get him to participate?
Thanks,
Joe
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