Lot of good advice to be had on the last thread but you chose to ignore it all.
Instead of focusing on you, you focus on her and your pity. You go out of your way to justify and rationalize her actions. You defend her to the point of writing a long, long post as if she wrote it. You deny how wrong she is here.
All to confirm your opinion of you as a loser.
Victim thinking, martyr thinking, masochistic thinking, poor me thinking. Everything is hopeless. She is right and you are wrong.
You regret the past, worry the future, dwell on business decisions and giving into your addictions.
You continue to fixate on her not being “strong enough” - to avoid your not doing the difficult work on you – rather you must feel the need for another to “save you”. Not your fault if you are not saved – her fault or someone else.
So why did you start a new thread? Want us to feel sorry for you? Want us to tell you to build yourself up?
You are trying to control the uncontrollable and you are dumping your anxiety on us. You are not listening – rather looking for a “response” from us, any response. But not a response that demands effort on your part.
You only want us to worry with you. That is childish, win-lose behavior Frank. You win relief at our expense. We are the ones absorbing your negative energy.
It is decision time. We cannot keep posting the same stuff again and again while you respond with long posts all about her, or all about where you made mistakes.
Please don’t repeat your last thread. Please. Don’t drive your friends and solutions away. Don't pull us down.
