When my husband and I talked the first night after I caught him in the A, I gave him my ring, told him he wasn't my husband bc my husband wouldn't do something like that. Then he said he wanted to try to fix things, so I put it back on (it was on top of his dresser). A couple times early on after a bad fight, I would take it off and put it where he could see it. Then, we went to MC. Decided we wanted to work on things. I realized that I should do what I WANT to do with the ring, not use it as a weapon or take it off as the mood struck me. That day I decided that since I had hope of a R, I was going to put it on and leave it on until I no longer had that hope. It was 6 weeks ago and I am still wearing it. Ironically, the same week my husband took his off. Guess it makes sense since he is the one figuring out what he wants/who he is...said he will put it back on if/when he decides he is in it all the way and is committed to having our R back. So I am wearing mine until there is no more reason to. To me, even when we separate next week (him to an apt. while he "works on figuring himself out"), we are still married. We are married until we aren't any more (The dreaded big D). So that is my plan, but just my thinking. Do whatever feels right to you. For me taking it off is giving up hope. Although if we do get back together into a newer, better M, I am open to the idea of new rings to symbolize the new commitment.
