Dave, Thanks for the update. Very interesting stuff indeed!
Especially:
Originally Posted By: C_K
The question is do I want it ? and how long am I prepared to wait?
Maybe I am answering this for myself more than anything, but humor me!
Do I want it?... I think the important part is the "it". What kind of R will "it be?
...a return to the past sitch? Probably not what you are looking for!
...an uncomfortable R where W is still working on her issues but you are together? Again, not for me.
...a reconciliation after W has had a chance to really work out all of her issues on her own? Maybe, but who knows who the person will be who comes out of this process and whether the two of you will at all be compatible as a married couple.
This leads us to: How long am I prepared to wait?
For me, the above thoughts are leading me to the conclusion that I should not wait.
That said, if she gets to the third place above, there is no reason that you guys can't start dating again if that is what you want at that time and are still available.
Concerning dating, this aspect I have not pursued, as a personal choice. Mostly to give me more time to work on myself.
As usual, this is worth what you paid for it! Hopefully at least gives you another viewpoint to chew on.
Take care, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
