I was posting over in Hopefulness . Guess why I'm here now. Well, at least now I know why W didn't seem willing to work on anything and wasn't responding to my DRing.
So, W asked last week whether we should continue with a bad MC we started going to before xmas. I said I could ask for referrals to a new one, but it was her choice if she wanted to keep going. Today I asked her about going and she said she didn't want to work on the M and wanted a D, even though that might be a big mistake. I said I understood, I hoped she would give the M a chance but if she wasn't willing to she should file. I said I was going to continue working on myself.
We ended up taking a walk and talking about what happens next. Finally she said she'd kissed someone. I said I had thought she'd been sleeping w/ someone and she admitted she had. She's been lying to me and the MC for months now! I majorly gulped down my pride and every other emotion and said I understood why that might happen since our sex life had been so poor. We continued to talk - even laughed a little about it (I know - weird).
Finally she said she'd broken off the PA but still had an EA with OM. I just said that all I could do was work on myself and show her someone she'd want to be with, someone to replace the vision she had of me when we first separated. She said she still cared for me. I asked if she'd be willing to go to counseling and give the M a little more time before filing for D and she agreed.
But what an emotional rollercoaster I've been on the rest of the day! Don't know what to do - am I making a tremendous mistake?
