Bite your tongue till it bleeds. I will pray for you because I know you will need it. Is there anyway that you can possibly just be in bed by the time he gets home? I remember the night H left I took a sleeping pill. I ended up bailing on work/school the next day. I spent the whole day crying, but I needed to. At any rate, try and be sleep and if you can help it don't mention it. It is going to be hard, but most likely you won't get the reaction you are looking for, but since you know this be prepared. Also, on the day he leaves can you be out? Maybe go to dinner or to the mall? It will be hard sweetie, you will feel like poop, but take it from someone you has been there if you can find something to occupy your time it will make it easier. If you don't have to go with him don't. If you plan on going then just go with kids and make it brief. Stay upbeat and stay positive. Don't say anything negative and don't break down. If you want I will put my email at the bottom of this. You can email me and I will give you my number. You can call me if you want and bawl your eyes out when it's all over. I take a special interest in your sitch because your H sounds so much like mine. It seems like they have the need to be nice guys all the while breaking our hearts. You will get through this. I am hoping you can benefit from my experiences. Also, with my S I just told him mommy and daddy could not get along and just like when he can't get along with others we are taking a time out. My H really procrastinated when it came to telling S. He thought we were going to be able to go months without mentioning it. He would go so far as sto stay until 10pm so son would not realize he was not living there. I put a stop to that. I told him if he wanted to leave then part of that meant telling our son. If he was so damn worried about how S would react maybe he should not leave. I finally told H myself.
