Unfortunately my D4 saw a lot of the fighting. So, when h moved out, I simply told her that mommy and daddy need to learn to treat each other better before we can live together. Mommy and daddy are learning how to be nice to each other. I also reminded her that I am not going anywhere. I don't want her thinking that because daddy moved out, mommy may also move out. I also tell her all the time that mommy and daddy love her so much. She made a comment last week, "maybe if I sing a funny song for daddy, he'll move back home." I didn't want her thinking that she has anything to do with the decision for h to move back home. Like thinking she can do something for this to work out. Too much pressure on a 4yr old. So, I told her that it's between mommy and daddy to work things out.
We also made calling daddy a bedtime ritual. Something we were doing before he moved out (he works nights). We just continued that.
It's so hard and heartbreaking. There may be a lot of questions and tears. Sometimes we'll just be driving in the car and D4 will start crying because she wants daddy home. Give them loves and hugs and tell him it's OK to cry.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
