Catfan, thx for the heartfelt note. you are exactly right she keeps asking for space and feels that I control her all the time. "I feel trapped". I heard this for the first time about a month ago. I can not see this. she does whatever she dam well feels like. I am on page 200 of DR but am wondering why you say " Do not share it with her in any way." I told her I was talking to Jody at DB and shared some of the info. Alot of this book and DB is exactly what we are going thru. The biggest problem I have right now is her saying she doesn't have the feeling anymore and whether she will get it back. The book says that you just don't love someone one day and don't have the feeling the next so I am hoping she is just trying to protect herself and she really does still have the feeling. I am going to miss her so much when she is away for 12 days on the cruise. I don't know how I am going to do it yet I will have a great time with my three wonderful boys that I love so very much. I have a lot of work to do but first I need to go cry a little. Thank you again.
