My h did that to me too. It hurt like he11 to hear him talking about the ow but he knew he had me to talk to. They are not happy, if he was he wouldn't let you know those things. He knows something isn't right with him and that is good.
I think you did well with the conversation. Just listen and validate when he calls.
Hang in there, you let him know you are there for him and it will hit him eventually.
