Thanks for the nice tip: give your spouse a chance to miss you. As I reflected on that statement, I remember that some of the best progress in my M and DB efforts has been after some period of being apart. I often think that my W just takes me for granted and I am just the cash-cow that pays the bills and finances her lifestyle. The more I try to talk to her, the less inclinded she is to listen.
It's funny, how something hits you. For me, as the S that said ILYBNILWY, i just feel like there is some emotional connection that I am missing. In the last 2 years... that's the first time i remember really feeling like I missed H. That I wished he could be home instead of out overnight. It's not the first time he's been gone, but the first time it really hit me that there is still a little something there.
For a WAS that says ILYBNILWY, i think it's important that they see exactly what they are missing out on by leaving. If the LBS is always there for them and always checking on them, they won't see that it's hard to make it without them.
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It is a strange sitch, as usually the W wants to talk and H does not want to listen. However, as her A continues, I become more disengaged, albeit angry and resentful. I know the last two are negative feelings. I do hope to shake out of these feelings sooner than later as they are toxic.
Negative feelings yes, but at least you see them and can acknowlege them as that. You'll get past those. We all have our days.
thanks ann
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