Over the last week or so I have experienced some interesting reactions from W. The first been a lot of Anger even to the point of abusive txt messages. Next day she acts as if nothing is wrong. Her mood can change within a few minutes at times.
I decided to try and get some conversation going with her and how she feels and what she wants.
What I got was that she is scared to move on and be by herself . She is also scared to return to the M because she does not want it to fail again and have to go through all this.
Thats as far as we got before we got a abrupt change of topic and the wall went up again. I backed off then and while there was much more to discuss I decided that it would be unproductive.
I met her again yesterday to discuss ongoing arangements and to discuss how to find her a more suitable property to rent along with discussing how much support she expects financialy etc. This stuff we can handle quite well.
I still get the impression that she thinks that returning to the M will be her decision. I am trying to get through gently that its a decision for both of us. Either one of us can decide to live apart but it will take both to decide to live together.
Through all this and the last month or so there is a reinforced emotional wall. I think this is a direct result of me having gone out with another woman as innocent as that was.
As for me I have met another Women ( different to the women previously meantioned) We have been out in a group environment on a couple of occasions and for coffee . We do get on very well but both have recent breakups and are doing our best to keep things at a friends level as involving each other in our respective dramas would be unfair. She is a very good listener and I have been open and honest from day one. As an outsider looking in she is reasonably confident that our M can be saved . The question is do I want it ? and how long am I prepared to wait?
