Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hi Ann,

Thanks for the nice tip: give your spouse a chance to miss you. As I reflected on that statement, I remember that some of the best progress in my M and DB efforts has been after some period of being apart. I often think that my W just takes me for granted and I am just the cash-cow that pays the bills and finances her lifestyle. The more I try to talk to her, the less inclinded she is to listen.

It is a strange sitch, as usually the W wants to talk and H does not want to listen. However, as her A continues, I become more disengaged, albeit angry and resentful. I know the last two are negative feelings. I do hope to shake out of these feelings sooner than later as they are toxic.

Good luck with your H. Perhaps he is starting to come around (mentally) as well.

Best,
--Chris