One thing we don't talk much about on this site is the trauma of guilt and shame. Often I wonder if the obvious guilt and shame my H feels has pushed him into a broken mental state of self loathing.
I think this is such an interesting point- my H is certainly dealing with feelings of guilt that I worry are pushing him into self-loathing, and I have wondered whether it is a common feature that compounds the emotional hardship of the WAS/MLC. It must be awfully traumatic and hard to deal with, especially with the MLCer perceiving such little support, and having such a hard time articulating the source of their feelings.
