WAW willing to give it another go

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Well it has been a wild ride since my W told me she wanted a divorce 12/31. But now things appear to be progressing to the point I will be posting in this forum (piecing) until further notice lol

To recap....I have a prototypical WAW (which I created) that also seems to have a bit of MLC (just based off symptoms & experiences I have read here). 2008 was supposed to be a big year for us as we were planning for our 2nd child. But New Years Eve she dropped the bomb and 2008 wasnt looking so good after all. Its been a wild ride in 2008 so far, and I doubt its quite done yet.

12/31: Bomb
1/1 - 1/9: She is very distant while I am DBing like a madman.
1/10: Personal counseling session for W
1/10: Driving home from counseling session, W calls me saying she thinks we might have a chance after all.
1/11: She goes back to saying its over, nothing I can do about it.
1/11pm: She seems to backtrack yet again and is very sweet and optimistic about the R
1/12: Continues riding up the sweetness wave, very affectionate.
1/14: 1st joint Marital Counseling session w/ same therapist wife saw alone.
1/14pm: Who is this woman? She hasnt been this sweet and affectionate to me in years! She is an absolute cuddle bunny. We stayed up till 2am just talking - like the old days when we 1st met. She mentions a few baby names she always loved. She mentions not wanting to be prego over the holidays - says she wants to get prego next month! She calls her mother & father, tells them to stop worrying about us, everything is going to be fine, etc.
1/15: So far so good. Sends me sweet email about how much she has enjoyed the last few days. She expresses fear/concern I may become complacent and fall back into bad habits, but otherwise a very sweet little message.

I have been DBing the whole time...through this roller coaster's ups and downs. I have presented consistent behavior regardless if I am getting cold shoulder or hugs.



I have some character flaws. Who doesnt? A genuine desire to address these flaws & taking steps to do just that....

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Integrating as many DBing techniques into my daily life & interaction with W

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HOPE






OK - now what? 'Piecing' is a process in and of itself. Outside the obvious (maintain consistency in efforts to improve self & marriage) what else might one overlook?