I've been remiss, welcome to DB, ntl. Sorry for the circumstances that bring you here, but we've all been there.
I'm a bit surprised at some of the posts to you so far. One would think this place has turned into Divorce His A$$, instead of Divorce Busters. It appears that some of our members are a bit bitter about their own lives right now. It happens from time to time, so please don't let that color your marriage situation or your time here. For the most part, you're going to find wonderfully supportive people who will offer advice, friendship, strength, the occasional 2x4 (when needed) and most of all understanding.
The fact that you're reaching out and looking for help during this trying time says a lot about you. We have a saying - one in 12 Steps and here that helps, fake it 'til you make it. Smile, smile, smile.
More importantly, be gentle with yourself, you deserve it.
