Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[fooled again]

I know what you mean, and I suppose that is what causes us so much anxiety, being unable to rectify the two mental images we have of our Ss. We knew and fell in love with one person, someone who could never have hurt us, and in front of us is a completely different person, someone who is and/or has hurt us more than we ever could have imagined.

I suppose the reality is that our Ss are both, and the tough thing is to figure out if we can live with that reality and the fact that you will never REALLY know a person.

Thanks for the well wishes.

FA