WELL if Jeanette's coming then I shall certainly tag along too. My goodness we could sort that freak out. No problem. He'd be begging for mercy in 10 minutes, and agreeing to anything in half an hour, and that is just Jeanette!!
Sun I do agree with Brue's comments. It is eating you up, and I think you have got to that sad point where you can't imagine your life being any other way.
You have to imagine it better first. It can be better. You can have a life of your own. You have a job where you are liked and valued.
You are living with an an immature alcoholic abusive husband, and that is tough, even without MLC behaviour.