Hopefully our H's will come out of their MLC's and realize that we are not the devil and that we are the women they fell in love with so many years ago (wrinkles/rolls & all) and that we can have an even more wonderful marriage.
If it does come down to the D you may want to ask your attorney about including the phrase 'lifestyle they have been accustomed to'. See what attorney has to say about this phrase. However, I hope that you (or anyone else here) do not get to this point.
I just finished reading DR. I've never read a book so fast in my life. I'm working on Step 2 - Know What You Want. My GAL goals are to loose weight, start exercising & try yoga (always wanted to do this). I need to get healthy for myself not because H is a "physical" person and hasn't found me sexually attractive in years. I believe I've mourned my H's D decision long enough (2 mon). I need to GAL.
Any DB suggestions would be appreciated.
H & I have extreme communication problems. Neither of us will say what is wrong and our issues get buried deeper and deeper and now it seems all we have is resentment instead of love for each other. My concern is that if I don't at least say something to him about our sitch then he may think my silence is an agreeance with him to D.
What I was thinking about doing is telling him that when he thinks the "smoke has cleared" that I'd really like us to talk and discuss things. Maybe we can be friends for our S's sake and not harbor deep anger issues that will affect them. I wouldn't go into any detail about our R just let H know that when he's ready to talk then I'll be here.
Thoughts anyone?
I told H he could take S15 hunting this weekend instead of me. He is trying to get out of it "because he's tired" - traveling a lot this week. However, I think I'll try and convence H to go with S15 (at least H isn't with OW). Maybe not good DBing? I'm trying to find some place to go for the weekend. Maybe if H sees me loading up my suitcase to go out of town he may wonder what's up?
Interesting little note - I went to H's office at lunch today to take his secretary some papers (I do notary work for her). She didn't say one word about H & I being separated, his OW (she knows her too), or a pending D. I believe she would have said something as she and I are pretty close. She would've at least told me she was sorry to hear about things between H & I but she didn't. Which makes me think that H still hasn't told his coworkers/employees and that OW is still in the closet.
