RJ COI: "I know you are less optimistic than me because you never call me."
I'd rather hear him say: "I am feeling xyz about the fact that you never call."
It's subtle, but it's an important distinction, IMO
I see the difference RJ. I can say i don't always do it right and admit to doing things similar to your H.
Being a kid in a household that enforced do what your told, your opinion doesn't count, you are valued for what you do in life, be PC so you don't look odd, is a life's works to improve upon.
