Sorry to hear about your H's comments Sue. I have been there too lately even though I have been cleaning like a mad dog. I guess it helps them justify their behavior or something. I like the cartoon advice and will have to try that too! Karen
It's so nice to see people checking on me and responding. That's why I love this place! Hi Yoyo.
lwb- We went to the Veggie Tales movie. It was cute, but didn't seem to hold her attention very well. I should have taken her to The Water Horse. She'd already seen Alvin & the Chipmunks.
Yeah, the comments from H are tough to handle. Rob, I'll take your advice and try to see him as a cartoon character. Probably Fred Flintstone, with the booming "Wiilllmmmaaaa" thing he does. Oh and Rob, thanks for the link to the MLC threads. I was going to read last night, but D3 needed my attention. Probably tonight, as H won't be home until near 10:00.
It seems like we're in the clear as of right now with our dog. She's been doing much better the past few days. Seems the medicine she got helped. Yeah!
Sheila- I know you're still here! I'm sure it's been a busy time for you too.
Pamar- I've been checking on your too, but hadn't posted on your thread. Thanks for posting on mine. I'll have to get online and see who Mrs. Angry is.
tal- I am trying to focus on my job, D3 and what I do still have. You'll see below that I got a little push today to keep fighting for the M.
chicki & Karen- Hi ladies. Nice to have you stop by. The cleaning thing drives me nuts. H complains that our place is a mess, but he lets D3 pull toys out and doesn't make her put them back when she's done??? I try to keep up, but some days I just say, I don't feel like cleaning.
SOOOOOO, I was sitting in a monthly meeting this morning and my cell phone started buzzing. I looked at it and it was OW's H calling me!! My heart started thumping like crazy. I wondered if he had good or bad news for me. When I was finished, I called him back. We talked for about 40 minutes. He wanted to know how I was doing, if I'd noticed any changes and if I had any options in mind as to what I wanted to do or thoughts on how to get the A to end. He said he was getting really tired of things, but he didn't want to stop fighting. He's just worried because he doesn't want his kids dragged any further through this. He has a 2nd phone session with someone from Marriage Builders and they suggested he try to get OW on the phone with him this time. He's going to try. He saw an email too, but didn't say what it said or any details. I think that's where his tired feeling is coming from. He said that it's strange because OW has been doing things with him & as a family. He said that the other day she even asked him if he wanted to work on some things on the house. He said for someone who wants out so badly, she's doing some odd things. He described OW's two lives she's living as "horrible". He said that he's also been making her accountable for her time or at least the time that he can. He said that it's possible that they aren't seeing each other as often as I might think, but he's aware that the decreased meetings are supplemented by more emails/phone calls. He told me that he completely understands if I come to a point where I want out. He said that as much as he doesn't want it, he said he understands that there may come a time for him too, especially because of the kids.
OW's H made me want my M. As bad as things are between H & I, he's desire to save his M kind of motivated me a little more. We'll see how it goes. I did tell him that we were going out of town this week/weekend, so he was happy to hear that we'd be having time together.
Speaking of going out of town, H made it clear last night that he had made plans for most of the time we are there. I do understand since we haven't been there since May and it is his family/friends.
OOOOHHHH, H also told me about one of his close friends who had checked himself into Rehab for alcohol over Thanksgiving. This is a friend that H parties with all the time when we go there. He's the one that H could always count on having a good time with. I doubt it will help, but I would hope that all the changes that his friends/family are making in their lives would have some impact on him. His friend has chosen to clean up his life and his brother has choosen to work on his M.
Well, busy day here at work. I just took my lunch break and thought I'd say hello.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Over this side of the pond, the Mr Men are big...Mr Happy, Tickles etc. I see Mrs Angry as one that turns green instantly and thinks that the world owes her a living.
Enjoy lunch, it is bed time over here and life has now taken a turn; check out my thread!
Glad to hear that he called.. now at least you have an idea what's going on and where he's coming from. I feel sorry for him. Its so sad seeing good people go through such turmoil (sp?)..
As I am sad for you, but I am hoping things will turn around for you and he will see the light of day!
(((hugs))
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Quiet night at our house. H worked a little late and D3 and I just hung out. She went to bed like a good girl last night.
I left a note this morning for H telling him to drop off a check for daycare. That's an expense he pays and has been falling behind. We were caught up until he decided to make 2 trips to CA for fun this past summer/fall. H called me this morning very angry asking how much he needed to pay. I gave him an amount and he started yelling, saying he didn't have that much. I calmly told him to then just pay what he could. As long as they see that you've made the effort, they'll be fine with that. The thing that pisses me off is that he gets angry over paying for his daughter's school. Never mind the money he's spent on OW or his trips, concerts....etc. He never complains about that.
Well, it's a very, very busy day at work. Almost overwhelming. I just wanted to stop and say hi.
There's a good chance that I might not be on for a while. We leave tonight some time and we'll be staying at my FIL's. FIL does have a computer I can use, but it's right out in the open where everyone can see it. Unless I'm alone or everyone is sleeping, I won't get on the BB.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
There's a good chance that I might not be on for a while. We leave tonight some time and we'll be staying at my FIL's. FIL does have a computer I can use, but it's right out in the open where everyone can see it. Unless I'm alone or everyone is sleeping, I won't get on the BB.
What a lunkhead... Anyways, hope your trip goes well, Sue! Don't forget to clear your browser history, etc. if you make a late-night BB visit.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
