I was just thinking about what a friend from work told me about his Divorce. He said the worst time was when all the paperwork and moving etc was done. He said that despite how emotionally and physically exhausting all that was, the worst time is when everything is done and you come home to your apartment, look around and say "this is my life now". I think to some degree that is what is happening to me, the fall out. I've taken care of everything, come through with shining colours and now there is an emptiness, a lonlienss, a recognition that "this is my life now" I'm trying to deal with it by keeping my life busy, keeping in touch with people but maybe it's important to just stay with that emptiness for a bit, feel it and maybe befriend it in some way. I am alone...always have been really...and that's OK. It's just been one Hell of a year! How have others out there dealt with this emptiness when it hits? I know the friend I mentioned above found himself a new R within a couple of months of his D. He said it helped him get through that time, made him feel desirable, but that it wasn't a good R then and still isn't a good R now, so I'm not seeing that as the way to go here! Any pointers out there?
