ntl,

Just cruised your thread after your comment on the article I left. I'm not sure where your H is at spiritually, but I will offer a couple of great resources that have helped me:

http://www.bebroken.com

http://www.everymansbattle.com

They offer daily Emails that really keep one focused.

I'll offer another link to an article (for you) that made an amazing difference to my perspective during my early walk through some difficult times:

http://www.masteryoflife.com/resentment.html

You seem to have a great outlook. That is key. Sadly, there are many here that take years to get to that point. Remember to take this as a process, one day at a time. It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. \:\)

One additional reference I'll offer is the companion book to the one that was recommended to me: "For Men Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. Naturally, it's titled "For Women Only". FMO was an interesting and easy read. I highly recommend it.

God Bless,

N.