My W. was a very giving person, sometimes too much so. For instance, we lived next to an older couple who were raising their grand daughter since birth. Their daughter, the girl's mom had passed away. My w. took such a shining to this kid that she wanted to have her live with us when her grandparents died. It meant a lot to W., so I agreed to it, against my better judgment. It ended up not happening, but we even went to family court and fought against her crazy uncle, who ended up with custody. She lives for our kids. She really held the family together. She did all the shopping, bills, cooking. I did the typical "house things", but she planned all the social events, picnics, etc. I don't think that's too unusual, but she was very giving, too much so, and couldn't fathom that I was not exactly like that. She is a good and principled person. No doubt about that.
