You know, it's funny, the world seems to always want to encourage bitterness between my W and I. The fact that we are separated and still do things together, for example family outings, often gets a response like "you two are crazy" or just the rolling of eyes which says the same thing. Just last week W was was ill and I was picking up the kids at her place. I chose to drop by and pick up some Chinese Congee (a rice porridge) for her because she likes that when she's ill and it takes a while to make herself. A friend said "you've got to stop doing things like that" and it left me wondering "why"? It's not like I do these things endlessly but it's still a small way to show consideration and caring for someone. Why is it that I'm not supposed to care, I must be BITTER! The world just sees it that way. I saw what I did as showing some forgiveness, deserved or not. This week W brought over a quiche that she baked for me (and I know, Asians must always must return a favour)and that was a nice thing for her to do. To forgive we have to start somewhere.
