Don't pretend to be excited if you are not. Don't pretend to be aloof if you are excited.
Trying to set up a strategy or set a tone sounds like attempt to get her to do something or get some outcome. It's thinking through your reaction to her because you want to acheive a goal. This takes too much energy in my opinion. You are not TRYING to do anything to her. All you are doing is taking care of yourself.
What response from you is the most honest, and will bring you the most peace and joy?
