I have undoubtedly let her down as well, by not being available when she needed me, by not making her the center of the universe, by becoming boring.
No FLTC that's not exactly right. It isn't just your fault. Each of you let the other down. At the end of the day each of you didn't do the right things for yourselves, each other and your marriage/relationship.
So as Michele says, do something different. You are by addressing your own needs first, getting your confidence up, etc. Only then when you have completed that journey will you be able to give something back.
As for your wife, you can't continue to worry about her because by worrying about her you are trying ways to "fix" her, only she can fix her. You just have to trust in her, have confidence in her that she can do what she needs to do for herself so she can then do for others as well.
So stop worrying about her and focus on the mission at hand, you.
Now I will ask again, what are your three positives? The first is you are addressing your confidence needs by re-establishing the core FLTC. You are doing what you are called to do, serve your country and lead men. The positive here is you are finding your core self, your core values and your self esteem and confidence.
What are the next two positives? Also have you started saving ANY money for yourself yet? Oh and a new question, tell me something positive about your wife. I can't recall you ever saying anything positive about her.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
