I agree with you--I sometimes try to figure out where he is as far as his crisis is concerned, but in the end it doesn't really matter. He called last night, twice as a matter of fact, and I asked if he was doing better, he said, "I guess". He decided to self-medicate with alcohol to deal with it. I listened, said, "sometimes you have to do that" and that was about it for that topic. I decided a while ago that I was going to make decisions for my life as if we were not going to be together again. Even though we are slowly reconnecting, it might not work out and I can't base my decisions on "if" it will. He's still very confused--his words, so I go on with my life and talk to him when he calls. The ball is in his court as far as bringing up any R talks and steps toward reconciling.
Thanks again for your reply and guidance--I really appreciate it.
