Definately it is important to keep in mind that we did let our W's down in some ways, whether it could have been different is water under the bridge now but once we put blame on someone else for everything we are, in a sense, giving up our own power. Our W's became hurtful attack dogs whereas we became little servants trying to appease them, "maybe if I do this better she'll be happy again" But, it's done, fini, finato ...whatever. Our job now is to put ourselves back together as best we can and make as happy a life as we can for ourselves, our families and even our W's. We must remember that they are people too, nursing great pain and the people they present themselves as being are NOT who they truly are. To be both loving and forgiving is something we should each strive for, no matter how hard. Have a great day!
