Saw W on Friday night for several minutes before she went out, then saw her again last night (Sunday night). I had to work over the weekend, so W organised DD to stay with her family. I find it easier not seeing her.
W had her best friend stay over last night. We all had dinner together (I cooked W cleaned up and made coffee's and desert), then watched a movie together. It was a very pleasant night.
I think I had a mini-MLC of my own on Saturday. Whilst getting my haircut, the hairdresser persuaded me to die my hair black (to get rid of the "speckles"). I thought it was going to be a subtle change, but it turned a blue black!
When W saw it, she had a smile on her face and told me it looked really good. That's the first complement she has given me in 12 months. DD loves it and can't stop touching my hair
W has changed her name back to her maiden name, and has asked me about the consent orders. I am off to my solicitor today to get the papers sorted for her to sign. She has been very patient, and I think I have prolonged it long enough.
I hope everyone has had a better start to 2008 than the end of 2007. AndyV
I will post a new pic on facebook for you to see. Hey, when r u getting a picture put on your profile?
How is Dr Diane doing? I haven't heard from her in ages.
I got all the paperwork done and signed today (consent orders), and gave them to my W this afternoon. It was a relief, sort of like putting off doing your tax return while your wife is chasing you for an audit.........
I think I have done as much as I can in trying to prolong the inevitable. I must admit, W has been pretty patient in not nagging too much for the papers to be finalised.
Plus, she has agreed to hold off on the sale of our home till the market picks up, and giving me time to organise my finances to buy her out if we don't get a good price (Sydney is in a housing slump at the moment).
Good news about the house.I kind of wish things turned out diferant but then agian there is a reason.... Don't know why yet but..... there i a reason..
Hang in there,
Dr. Love.... (husband)
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
My pics are on my myspace. I haven't taken any new ones recently!!!!
I haven't 'spoken' to Diane in a while. I must catch up with her - I am afraid I have been submerged in client's tax returns!!!!! I hate it!! I think she is negotiating with her H on her settlement etc.
I am glad that you are managing to sort things out with your W in a 'civilised' way although I am very sorry it has come to this. Seems like just about the whole world is in a housing slump at the moment - luckily I don't feel the need to move at the moment although perhaps this would be the right time to try and get something with some land for the horses!!! Got to keep my priorities right!!
You take care Andy and don't be a stranger just because your M is ending. Sounds like you are soon to become 'catch of the day'
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I know what you are saying, things do happen for a reason F'd if I know what the reasoning is behind it but they do happen
Had a chat to W tonight about the papers etc (there were a few adjustments on my part that she was worried about). I told her that I will always be there for her regardless of what happens, and not to worry about anything. She sort of got a bit misty eyed which was funny (for me). But it ended nicely. I am sort of past the angry stage now (have been for several months) and just want to make things as friendly as possible for DD's sake and my own.
Things have been smoother over the last fortnight than ever before. W is more happy, and is starting to become her old self again (more considerate and relaxed, compared to highly strung, out all night etc).
She is still with OM, but I don't know what their sitch is like. For example, she stayed over at his house on Saturday night, and when she got back on Sunday morning (to look after DD whilst I worked), she kept re-iterating how uncomfortable her friends sofa bed was (I think it was more show for DD than anything), and how her girlfriend and her stayed up till 1 am transferring pictures and files to her new IPOD that I got her...............
She took DD to her kickboxing class, then dropped her off at home before going out for groceries last night. Got home an hour later, guess what, no groceries......
She knows that her and OM don't bother me now. As long as he is out of my personal space, I don't care too much about them. But the thing I do get annoyed with is her lies. She can just not say anything about what she does or where she goes and she knows I never ask now, so why give me this "extra" info........
On a positive note, I have three functions to go to on Wed, Thu and Fri night, and I asked W if it would be okay for her to look after DD, and she said yes without even thinking about it, in her "old" considerate manner.
I suppose another good thing is that she doesn't spend nearly as much time with OM as before. They still are a couple, but the late nights are becoming less frequent.
My hero..... how be it down under???? the sheila's keeping ya busy by the barbie? ok that is all the Australian I know.. Sounds like you have made some big progress ON YOU... Learned to let go... I noticed yesterday that when W asks things like "what time do you get off work today" I would ask shy she wants to know,I used to get all defencive and think "why? so I would catch you talkignto the OM?. Now I just tell her.....I know our spouses brought all this crap into our relationships but sometimes WE fuel the fire by our actions.... Your the man, keep it up big guy...26 more days and I'll be with the dancing "sheila's" in Vegas....
Dr. Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
