I know what you are saying, things do happen for a reason F'd if I know what the reasoning is behind it but they do happen
Had a chat to W tonight about the papers etc (there were a few adjustments on my part that she was worried about). I told her that I will always be there for her regardless of what happens, and not to worry about anything. She sort of got a bit misty eyed which was funny (for me). But it ended nicely. I am sort of past the angry stage now (have been for several months) and just want to make things as friendly as possible for DD's sake and my own.