I don't _want_ divorce, but I don't want to retrun to the pain again either.
If you have any hope in you for your marriage, then don't push the divorce. Make up in your mind what he must do to regain your trust. Discuss with your counselor. Don't give your H any ultimatums. Just let him know that you felt/feel hurt over things he has/hasn't said and done.
If he can step to the plate and work with you, which will include discussing what hurt(s) him, you may yet bust this divorce. If he cannot or will not be a partner to you, well, there are a lot of us here who've been through that. You'll get through it, too, if you have to.
But as long as you don't feel that you've reached the point of divorcing, don't push it. Protect yourself, legally, financially, and emotionally while you see what he'll do. If you get to the point of divorce, you'll feel better later if you know that you left no stone unturned trying to save your marriage.
Hugs and prayers,
Joe
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