Thanks for asking ladies (wow, four fetching ladies asking about me... ). I am OK. Had a big divorce talk with the wife today. She is convinced that I have had sex with Shrek's wife. Twice. Also, she has convinced herself that I am tracking her, etc, etc, etc. I could go on and on. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "You just can't tell the truth can you?" I told her that I was being honest with her (did not point out to her that she is the one lying about Shrek).
I told her that, in spite of recent events, I love her and I think that we can repair the marriage. She disagreed. Oh, well. She knows how I feel.
Good for you, Mark. Whether she acknowledges it or not, you stated your position clearly. That's important.
Originally Posted By: Ohio_Mark
She will be proceeding with the divorce soon.
One thing: the custody issue may get contentious. She wants sole custody. I want to share the custody (I want to raise my kids, not sit back and watch Shrek do so). This will involve a battle, and this will only drive wife even further away from me than she is now. I am not sure how to proceed: As a doormat, and let her take the kids. Or fight for my parental rights. This is a non-negotiable issue in her mind. There will be no compromise outside of the courthouse.
I am inclined to take on the challenge at the risk of further alienating her. My kids deserve the fight.
Argh! OK, Mark, I just can't stand it. I have to get out my 2x4 a little here...
Originally Posted By: Ohio_Mark
Day before yesterday, she said that she is going to move forward soon with the divorce, and asked me whether I would cooperate in filing the paperwork. Well.... should I?
It took me about 3 minutes to find that quote, from July 14. I'm sure that, if I had longer, I could find many, many more like it. Your W has been saying she is going to file 'real soon now' for months and months.
My question isn't why she says this - hey, that's easy, it's part of the MLC script!
My question is, why do you believe it? You don't report this as "She claims once again she will be filing soon" - you report it as fact. Don't buy into this spew, man! It's garbage! You just told us yourself all of the many things that stand in the way of her moving forward - the numerous problems with having Shrek ever work out, the problems with child custody, not to mention her own confusion and pain. The MLC Master Plan is NOT coming off according to her screwed up concept of it!
And that gives you the answer, if you didn't already have it, about your kids. You do what's right, and you refuse to give in to her crazy ideas. She has shown that, with a hard road in front of her, no matter what crap she may SAY, she will ACT indecisively and wait for some kind of miracle. Don't let her delude herself that she'll get the kids - show her that you are a strong, loving dad who will do whatever it takes to keep your kids in your life.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
). I am OK. Had a big divorce talk with the wife today. She is convinced that I have had sex with Shrek's wife. Twice. Also, she has convinced herself that I am tracking her, etc, etc, etc. I could go on and on. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "You just can't tell the truth can you?" I told her that I was being honest with her (did not point out to her that she is the one lying about Shrek). 
