Thanks to everybody for the support. I do intend to fight the good fight. The very idea that she believes that Shrek can just step in and fill the void left by her kicking me out is repulsive to me.
Nut, there is one family law judge presiding in this jurisdiction, and, in the absence of physical, emotional or substance abuse, or abandonment, he is inclined to rule in favor of shared parenting time. Not sure why her lawyer doesn't know this. I think she's gonna hang her hat on my travel last year. It's been curtailed a lot, and I was gone for part of the week for two consecutive weeks just once since August. So alternating weeks would work.
Theo, I think that an 8/6 arrangement would be better than 4/3. But I do agree that they all need to spend a significant amount of time with me. Also, the presiding judge does not want to hear about adultery. It has no impact on custody, so he believes it does not belong in the courthouse.
As I was in bed last night, it occurred to me that my agreeing to the arrangement she wants (every other weekend + "whenever you want") would require a level of trust that I do not have for her. It's just not going to happen.
