Hi everyone - I have been posting on infidelity site but should probably start posting here since I'm probably depressing all the folks over there with my seems like lost situation. To recap - after my H filed for the big D (right away after ending M in August) he came back once for few days in Oct but left again becuase I bombarded him w/ quest about affair and he got mad and left. Since then Nov - present we have no relationship. No contact except email about D6. Seems hopeless. Keep thinking he came back once so maybe he will again but hes living with OW. He agreed through lawyers not to have over night visit with D since living with OW and will not bring her around OW again (found out he snuck her over there twice to meet her!!!) So here we are - have another court date for 2/5 still just to get sep agreement signed and then maybe few months later we will be divorced. Since we have had no contact for months now except email about D6 and I have gone completely dark - we never see each other - he pulls up in driveway to pick up D and I send her out - I was wondering should I find some way to make us have contact? I have gotten a new job after being a SAHM for years, I have lost weight, I am dressed up all the time and really trying to GAL but H does not see the change - he knows I lost weight but is there any chance when you never see each other? I though it may give him time to think but would it not also help if he saw me "getting on with my life"? But I dont see any way to arrange that because if I all of a sudden started to email personal info he would take it as persuing and if I walked my daughter out he would also take it as persuing. I dont know. Does anybody have no contact with their spouse but still have some glimmer of hope or am I still in denial????
