Hi w8ing- I am glad to hear you are doing well over all. Interesting news about your H. I wouldn't write him off just yet for a couple of reasons. First, is it possible that your H's MLC started some time ago causing his selfishness? Second, they say that a crisis changes people, is it possible that this crisis help him appreciate his family more?
Sounds like your H has a long way to go and has to still be very confused. He is proceeding with the D because of his confusion and guilt. If you can (if you want to), just sit back and see what happens. Maybe you don't love your H much now and a lot of damage has been done...but you never know what the future holds...maybe I am just a hopeless romantic...but more like I just believe that kids do best with intact families...and I know you want what is best for your girls.
I am happy for you that you got a job offer...it will be nice for you to have some autonomy. I think you know that no matter what happens with your M, you need to have your independence...it just isn't a perfect world is it?...to have your independence, your girls lose out on having you home... :sad:
Good luck getting the settlement stuff figured out. Just remember this isn't easy no matter what path you take...and if you D and get into a new R, there are no guarantees there either...look at my sitch...and bringing in a step parent and possibly step siblings into the mix is incredibly difficult...just some stuff to think about.
Keep posting no matter what you decide...we are here for you.
