so let me get this straight...shrek is an unemployed, sweaty, infirmed, well, shrek? and this is what your wife thinks she wants???
I guess I would say the quickest way to get her back is to let her have him. seriously, the fog has to lift and wow, when it does, stand back, because that is just scary.
fight for what you want, mark. I'm glad you have already seen a lawyer that you are comfortable with. hopefully it won't get ugly, but do NOT sacrifice your children on the offchance that it might get you your wife back.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
SallyM is right, as is everyone on here. You might risk any type of R with your W by fighting for your kids. But that's a risk I would be willing to take, and I know you are too. She isn't thinking rationally. They need you as much as they need her.
I don't know what the standard is in Ohio, but here in California (I know, we're all pinko, tree hugging liberals), 50/50 custody is the default--given no special circumstances. I think it would be a real disservice to your kids if the court were to award full custody to your W. Your kids should not be raised by a 4X married, sweaty troll.
While it won't restore your marriage or your family to what it was before, you might get some cosmic justice out of this. You certainly deserve some.