I only have a second so I can't respond to your insightful post just yet....but let me throw this question out to you...
why do YOU think that you keep analyzing and negatively reading between the lines? What are you gaining by doing that? Or, as Dr. Phil would say: what payback are you getting?
Are you trying to control the situation? (Better to create a negative scenario than live with uncertainty?) Are you setting yourself up so when your "assumed" inevitable happens you won't have so far to fall? Something else?
You H's email screamed love and reassurance and commitment to me. If you can figure out why you shy away from that, you'll be able to overcome it.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.