Yes, your attorney is right.... I would not leave for the weekend. I would not leave on any trips, or spend any nights away from the children. Be syrupy sweet and encourage him to " enjoy his weekends" and spend time with OW. Tell him how important it is they spend time together to "help strengthen that closeness.... blah blah blah...."
Sadly, you need to consider that he may have an ulterior motive for having you "go away for the weekend," so he can position himself for more custody. So don't do it.
Then document dates he's gone and any other details. HIDE this information. If you have a family member nearby, someone you can trust implicitly, then leave the documentation there. You do not want your husband to know you are keeping track of this.
One more thing to consider, when you want to go out with friends (happy hour!), consider having a family member watch the kids rather than relying on him. Do not tell him anything you are doing. Keep looking hot. It's too bad he can't move in with OW. That would make it real.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
