I know I have to quit being Mommy. I have never wanted that role but realize I was put into in long ago. My H never handled much of the home responsibilities, and as I am the caregiver type, I took on the role blindly.
My H also, I believe, started the "control" complaints after he got involved with the OW. I think a lot of H's negative comments were fueled by conversations he had about me with them. I have often thought that many of the things he said did not sound like him and had been fed to him by OW1 or OW2. They, by the way, were both controlling women from what I gathered in their conversations with me. Both VERY strong with very strong opinions about everything! I told H once that I thought he was looking for a mother figure his whole life because of the lousy R he had with his own mother. He didn't like that one bit, but I to this day believe it's true. 20/20 hindsight, you know.
Thanks for stopping by, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
