LL, Thanks for replying. In my haste to post this, I left out some things.
EA OW had emailed b/4 Xmas asking for address to give to this woman so she could mail the bag. I sent the address, didn't tell her it was me replying (I know, bad Jill), and that was the last personal email received from skank EA OW. So, this other lady obviously never got the email.
I also wrote in the email H's home email address (where this new email came to). We have two home email address. I know I shouldn't have looked at H's, but something just tugged at me to do it. I also wanted to see if he had been able to check my email to him. Anyway, I guess he hadn't had a chance or doesn't have access to email so my email wasnt' checked. I will tell H that I looked at the email, and I will tell him why (that I snooped because a bit of insecurity from the past hit me, and also wanted to see if he read my email). I'm also a bit worried about his safety right now, so if he checked it, then I'd know everything is ok.
Anyway, I really don't want to, and can't email this woman. She wrote the email to my husband. Also, she wrote that she first tried to send it to his office email (not hard to find since she is in the military too), and it got sent back, that is why she sent it to his home email. She had his work email wrong by one letter, I'm not about to correct her because I don't want her emailing him at work.
That also causes me to wonder. H said he didn't give his email at work to skank EA OW, and I believe him. But if it's this easy to find, how do I know that she hasn't been emailing him there? I know, I have to trust that he'd tell me. That's my problem, I don't. Even though he said he'd tell me, I don't believe it. I think he wouldn't tell me because he wouldn't want to have problems in our R again. It just brings everything back again; all the pain, the sadness, the insecurity, etc. Also, it makes me wonder, since woman from b/4 we met (and the woman he was "thinking about" when he dropped the bomb) is also military, how do I know they aren't in contact at his office? He said he was wrong for fantasizing about her, etc. He only made one contact with her when he dropped the bomb, and realized he was wrong, and didn't have feelings for her, whatever.
I wasn't thinking anything much about this for a while, I was happy in our new R, or so I thought. But this email, it just triggered something in me again.
