I understand your funk...but keep in mind...h is busy with military stuff and that is why you haven't heard from him...he'll be back soon and your tank will be on overload...
as far as the e-mail from this ow's roomate...since it was sent to and e-dress that is used by both of you...why don't you simply reply to it...let her know she can send the bag to an office on the base and thank her for returning it. end of story end of contact...I think she'll get the hint and if not then at least take comfort in knowing that h is not contacting them and has appologized.
will the pain go away?? I'd hope so...of course things will be more difficult when h is away or busy...your mind will be free to wander to the bad times...but only if you let it.
I would imagine that over time the trust will come back as well as all the other things you are missing.
