You know, right now...if your hate protects you, your anger...I'd say let it. Let it help you detach, just keep a muzzle on it.
Yeah, I know the drill. They start out all happy because they have made a decision and it's the 'right' decision. They think we're supposed to be 'happy' for them and stay friends.
If we change and aren't 'fun and happy for them' in every aspect in life then we must be 'depressed', which further validates their choice to leave.
Of course, I'm the one who has to pick up the financial mess and I'm the one who is expected to put a roof over the kids heads. She hasn't thought about who's going to make her car payments though. Or much of anything else.
The hard thing is to detach without getting angry because, let's face it, she may be a good person at heart, but what she is doing is what a loser does.
And yes, it hurts. It's also tough knowing that I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. If I detach and adopt an aloof attitude she'll read that as 'anger / depression' and validate her choice to leave. If I am nice and pleasant she'll read that as ME validating her choice to leave.
