Who will be my Du (dude) enna?

[MJontheMend]

If you're just having fun and playing while working to square away other parts of your life, then no problem (and I can relate). It's just that when you asked for help in moving from a one-up/one-down situation to something more balanced, it seemed like you were wanting to make a relationship work. That would be a cry for help if I ever heard one.

Yeah, I can understand why it would seem that way given the quagmiric-like context you guys have seem me flopping about in. Really I was just asking the question out of interest rather than concern. Like if I knew Corri had just read a book on UFOs and I saw something in the night sky.

I also find it very odd that an attractive captain-of-industry is nosing around the online dating scene. Not long ago I thought that women held all the power in the dating game. Now I believe it's better to be a man when it comes to real world dating, but online dating is solidly the province of women. To me, it's a waste of time, so I'm not sure why this guy is hanging out there. Seems like his dating plate should be full without the online component. If he's just playing around, then whatever, but he seems a bit clingy for that to be the case. It'll be interesting to see what happens.

Well, simple answer would be that he just took on a very demanding job and moved to a new area so he doesn't yet have a bar "where everybody knows his name" etc. etc. That's why I'm inclined to cut him a bit of slack on the "clingy" too. He's kind of "using" me as someone to talk to about where to put his new couch and I'm kind of "using" his Captain-of-Industry initiative to rouse my *ss in the Wealth quadrant. He asks me questions about my business and gives me sh*t when my answers are lame and I find that helpful. Like he cracked me up because I told him that my sister and I hadn't set up the snack area in our new office yet and he was like "Well, what do you have to do?" and I said "Well we have to plug in the mini-fridge and set up the coffee maker." and he said "Umm..do you think that is something you are going to have to out-source?"

At any rate, my dude-enna advice for you is not to figure out how to make anything work with him. Just figure out what he is and then take it or leave it. This is your time for playing the field and having fun, not getting attached to some guy because he calls you every night.

I agree.