Piecing is hard...should I even do it?

[ntl]

You have GOT to get this book about male depression, it helped me to see so much and to stop asking myself "why did he do this?" I love this book, I'm barely half way but I will also share it with H, he's asked himself thousand times "what is wrong with me? why do I keep doing these things?"
"Is He Depressed or What?: What to Do When the Man You Love Is Irritable, Moody, And Withdrawn by David B. Wexler

I certainly feel he is dealing with some esteem issues. He's a smart, smart guy who wouldn't steal a paperclip from work...and now, he's got to face the reality that he's got this slimy, shame-ridden part of himself. He's been very open about how he really had compartmentalized this philandering despot and this clean-cut, well-mannered, seemingly highly-ethical guy in two separate and distinct beings. He really did create a whole separate world for himself.

And now he's also got these very strong fear of failure issues that he's dealing with. I often wonder if that's why he wants to save the marriage so badly...because he's afraid that people will think this perfect guy has failed at something (they don't know about his cheating).

He's constantly assuring me that isn't the case, and I am trying to take things minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour.

We'll see, cat03!! I've got prayers in my heart for both of us...the prayer is always happiness, regardless of what happens.

Regards,

ntl