Are you laughing with me or at me on this one. OT? OK, OT says that Coffee Buddy has not treated me badly but I am not so convinced, therefore I am throwing it open to others to honestly tell me what they think. I ask this because I am in no position to judge objectively but I also know I'm someone who gives way too many chances and tends to look too much at the other persons perspective. As I've said, for years I kept going by saying that W was under stress blah blah blah and it gets to a point where you don't recognize unacceptable anymore it just becomes the way it is! So, here's my thoughts on the CB's great escape! I have absolutely no problem with her choosing not to spend time with me at coffe shops, in the park and whatever else we would do with our time. I certainly can understand that our intimacy could become an issue for her in re to her R elsewhere. I also don't have a great difficulty in her not talking to me about it, I understand how vulnerable that would make her. I do have an issue with her just cutting off virtually any contact with me because it is hurtful and inappropriate to the situation. If I was hitting on her, making suggestive remarks etc then I could see such an extreme response but I wasn't and never would! If we didn't spend the hour together we would normally meet back at the studio 10 minutes early and chat but now she pulls her car up to the door, her D gets in and she drives off week after week, without a wave or any sign of recognition. I'd say that's a pretty extreme and insensitive response to someone who is dealing with the biggest hurt of his life already. A friend of mine says "she acts like you f@cked her or something!" I just can't see what is wrong with a little chit chat which in itself says "I value your feelings" Am I wrong here? Initially, to be fair, she did come right at the time class ended and waited for me to chat for a couple of minutes, and in all honesty, I was a bit taken aback by this sudden change of our interactions but then adjusted to recognizing it as sensitivity but just like that it changed to "snatch and run" each week. Finally one week she did approach me and started asking questions about how I was adjusting to the separation etc and I was somewhat uncomfortable considering for that past month I didn't exist, so that is when I tried to clarify what the issue was between us and she fed me a line. So does she owe me anything? Well, maybe just the respect that I would and still do give her. Is this hurt feeling just the overreaction of an extremely sensitive man these days? I dunno, any thoughts? Oh, and yes OT, I think you're probably right when you suggest my hurt may also be more to do with my w's rejection of me than any of these other percieved hurts. It's hard to feel mournful for someone who has crapped on ya for the past few years, it's easier to mourn for someone who has been caring and empathetic as Coffee Buddy was, so transference is a high probability!
Are you laughing with me or at me on this one. OT? 
