You need to get him out of the house as quickly as possible. Any chance he can move out this weekend? Strongly encourage him to do this. Of course, you'll have to trade off on custody. Just give him every other weekend if possible.... No more than that.....
I don't think most people in the midst of a divorce are ready to "date." That's a recipe for a bad relationship (rebound!). I personally, think people make wiser choices when they've had time to heal and have worked through the baggage. Of course, the decision to date or not is entirely up to you. I just notice that most people I know who date during divorce seem to get into some pretty crummy relationships.
But I think meeting guys and girls to talk with and be friends with (and someone you might eventually want to date) is practical. In fact, there was one guy I met during my divorce that I enjoyed talking with and found attractive and who really seemed to like me. I told him I wasn't dating, but maybe once my divorce was over, and if he wasn't seeing anyone, perhaps we'd go on a date. I never felt bad about this. We truly were just friends. Nothing happened and his friendship taught me there was life out there and if my marriage ended. Maybe not someone I'd want to marry (I'm too practical, I look at impact on kids, probability of success, etc.... and chances are I'd just have guy friends... and nothing serious until the kids were gone. I just don't want the drama).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
