I guess it is really hard to say, especially since this was over the phone to begin with.
But I'm totally shell shocked, as is W I think. Basically we have just agreed to wait 90 days and see what happens. A lot of boundaries were set, and agreed to by both of us.
Basically it has been over for months, neither of us could agree to work on it, so why set unrealistic expectations. We are giving the 90 days to see if we want to even work on it. Which means, no expecations, no asking about each others outside life, etc...but she was really open as was I. Although I felt, I didn't really have as much to be open about with, but that isn't for me to decide I guess.
I know I'm thankful that it wasn't what it appeared, and I'm thankful for the 90 days. But I'm also really shell shocked right now. Just lost, and confused. Sort of how did we get here and why? Not hurt, upset, happy, sad, just sorta like What? The worst part is, I haven't heard from my W in a long time, I know what she was saying was the truth. It was actually her and not the alien on the other end. Which makes me see that she is there still listening.