Thanks for asking ladies (wow, four fetching ladies asking about me... ). I am OK. Had a big divorce talk with the wife today. She is convinced that I have had sex with Shrek's wife. Twice. Also, she has convinced herself that I am tracking her, etc, etc, etc. I could go on and on. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "You just can't tell the truth can you?" I told her that I was being honest with her (did not point out to her that she is the one lying about Shrek).
I told her that, in spite of recent events, I love her and I think that we can repair the marriage. She disagreed. Oh, well. She knows how I feel.
She will be proceeding with the divorce soon.
One thing: the custody issue may get contentious. She wants sole custody. I want to share the custody (I want to raise my kids, not sit back and watch Shrek do so). This will involve a battle, and this will only drive wife even further away from me than she is now. I am not sure how to proceed: As a doormat, and let her take the kids. Or fight for my parental rights. This is a non-negotiable issue in her mind. There will be no compromise outside of the courthouse.
I am inclined to take on the challenge at the risk of further alienating her. My kids deserve the fight.
I am inclined to take on the challenge at the risk of further alienating her. My kids deserve the fight.
There is your answer. You are not a weekend dad now--why should that change? Do the right thing by your kids and let the chips fall where they may with your W.
I got a good one. She handles nothing but divorce.
Good. Custody battles can get very ugly--I hope yours doesn't. You've done right by your kids and right by your W (even if she doesn't believe it). There is no reason that custody should be any less than 50/50.
She'll have a tough time moving 350 miles to live in bliss with Shrek if she doesn't have full custody. That, I believe, is the real issue. Life's full of tough choices.
Yeah, nut, according to his snooping wife, Shrek is looking for work in this area. He is currently unemployed, and is looking to change careers into a field that is very competitive. Good luck, buddy.
From what I have been told, the plan is for him to find a job and relocate within 100 miles of here. Then she packs up the kids and moves them there to live with him happily ever after.
Not so fast. According to my lawyer, even if she gets what she wants (custody with alternating weekends for me), she will not be permitted by the court to move the kids out of the school district. The judge will not allow it for "older kids." And my kids definitely qualify as older.
So she will be left with a quandary: Either Shrek moves again closer to here, and takes a lesser job in this area (perhaps pushing carts at WalMart), or she abandons the kids and moves with him, leaving the kids with me. Hell will freeze over before the latter, so ...
). I am OK. Had a big divorce talk with the wife today. She is convinced that I have had sex with Shrek's wife. Twice. Also, she has convinced herself that I am tracking her, etc, etc, etc. I could go on and on. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "You just can't tell the truth can you?" I told her that I was being honest with her (did not point out to her that she is the one lying about Shrek).